Saturday, January 9, 2010
BIG SCARE IN MADRAS, INDIA
We were on the waterfront area, so I thought that maybe I should sit close to the door so as to be the first one out to catch a cab. I enjoyed the movie, but as soon as it ended I bolted out of the theater to find that there were no cabs. Everyone emptied the theater in a couple of minutes and headed around the side of the theater to their vehicles. In a few minutes everyone was gone and I was standing alone in an empty parking area.
Finally I looked down a street away from the waterfront and saw some cars crossing about 6 or 7 blocks ahead. So I walked rapidly toward the street in almost total darkness---there were no street or residence lights. Occasionally I would hear noises coming from the buildings along the way, which I ignored, and walked faster. When I got to the street , there were no cars to be seen.
Then I saw a theater marquee another couple of blocks away. When I walked in front of the theater, it seemed that it was an Indian movie. There was a bicycle rickshaw standing there, with the driver talking to a person. I leapt up into the seat, and he asked me where I wanted to go. Since I had only a few rupees and was sure that it wasn't enough to go across town to the hotel, I wracked my brain and came up with the train station.
So he wheeled away up a narrow alley. A thought came to me that maybe he was taking me into a trap, where I would be robbed and beaten up. I prayed for deliverance, while deciding if I would fight, run or give anything I had. After about ten minutes the alley opened up into a plaza that held the huge train station. I jumped out of the rickshaw and gave him half of the few rupees in my pocket.
Then I looked around the plaza that was filled with people sleeping on the ground. Finally I found a taxi whose driver was asleep, woke him up, and told to take me to the Connemara Hotel. I was surprised that he accepted the few rupees I had for the fare. Whew! What a hair raising adventure.
A CLOSE CALL ON MT. TIMPANOGAS
Inasmuch as Steve and Margaret had baby Tyler in tow, we determined that Ellen and Margaret would cllimb up to the lake at the bottom of the glacier and wait for us. So Steve and I left them to scale the north ridge with Margaret's advice that we slide down the glacier in tandem.
When Steve and I reached the top, we observed that a thunder cloud was moving north from Y mountain with both rain and lightning coming down. Consequently we hurried south along the ridge toward the saddle above the glacier. About half way to the saddle, the rain started with increasing fury and strong winds. We tried some shelter on the lee side of the ridge, but were getting increasingly wet from the rain. Finally I suggested that we push on down and try the glacier. By the time we reached the saddle, we were soaked; and then the rain subsided.
When we got ready to slide down, Steve sat in front of the plastic garbage bag, and I prepared to sit immediately behind him on the sack. As we started to push off, I must have got my right foot caught in the snow, because the next thing I knew I was sliding pell-mell down the icy glacier headfirst on my back. I tried to dig my hands and arms into the hard, slick surface to slow me down, but I was sliding so fast that it was impossible. The surface of the glacier was pockmarked with ridges and small holes so that the back of my head and shoulders were banging hard at an incredible clip. My feet were thrown up by the banging of my hips on the rough surface.
Finally my slide slowed and stopped about 100 yards down the flacier, much to my relief. I can only guess that I may have been sliding faster than 15 MPH, certainly faster that I can rurn. While the wild ride occupied my concern to get control of my body, I had fleeting thoughts of dropping into some of the large potholes that dotted the glacier, which would have broken my neck or caused some other serious injury, or death. As I gained my feet and was able to review my wild slide, the awesome realization of the consequence of heading into one of the potholes on my back headfirst brought a rush of great relief and gratefulness to the Lord and guardian angels for my survival.
As I stood to view the scene above me where I had traversed seconds before, I was somewhat dizzy, due in part that my glasses were missing, as well as my hat. This situation was relayed to Steve who had stopped shortly after our aborted takeoff and had observed my dangerous journey. We scanned the trail of my slide without finding the glasses but did retrieve my hat.
Our descent of the glacier was made without much difficulty, despite my feeling some unsteadiness from the slide and the impaired sight due to the loss of my glasses. We caught up with Margaret and Ellen and reached our car after a seemingly endless trail with Steve and I taking turns carrying Tyler. Without my glasses, I drove home somewhat cautiously.
The following week I acquired some new glasses. About three weeks later Douglas came to a meeting at BYU and wanted to climb Timp during his stay with us. In part to overcome any residual fear of climbing Timp, I agreed to accompany him, again on the Timpanooke Trail. When we reached the top and then hiked down tot he saddle, we met a couple climbing up the glacier to the saddle. As we chatted with the young man, we recounted to him my near disaster previously. When I mentioned that I had lost my glasses, he said that he had seen a pair of glasses at the hut near Emerald Lake at the bottom of the galcier. When we reached the hut, I found my lost glasses, no worse for the icy stay up above.
Pick a Game, Any Game
I have always loved playing games with my family. With ten people in the Thompson house there was always someone to play with. On New Year's Eve I recall games of Risk and Monopoly that seemed to go on all night long. I could never last. Around the holidays there was always a puzzle out on the game table. I would sit and work at it for a while, usually aside Dad, and then come back to it in bits all week long.
I received my very own game of Sorry when I was about ten years old which my boys now play with. Although I never learned to play chess as a child, my boys taught me the rules as they learned the game during our travels in Europe.
In most recent years we have enjoyed going over to Mom and Dads to play Uno, Chickenfoot and Quiddler, although anytime we get together as family, any game will do. No visit from the cousins is complete without a night capped with the playing of games.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Plymouth car wreck
I was draped around the steering wheel, and Lynn who was asleep in the back seat was thrown forward over my head into the front door that had spring open, and then he bounced back near the left rear wheel outside the car. After I squeezed out from behind the steering wheel, I called to Lynn who lay moaning on the ground. He had a concussion and babbled words I couldn't understand, so I was really scared. I stowed him in the car and then sprinted non-stop back to the Ball's home. There I called home to let them know our disaster. After a couple of hours, Lynn's parents picked us up and took us home. After a couple of days Lynn recovered his senses.
The Plymouth was towed to White's garage in south Dayton, where it took a couple of months and $500 to repair. I earned all of the money to pay for the repair over the ensuing year. Our family was relegated to riding in our old 1935 Ford truck until the Plymouth was repaired.
Throw the baby off the wagon
Mom was sitting on the high seat with me in her arms. Evidently Dad yelled to her to jump because the wagon was headed straight for the embankment into the deep river. She probably did not feel she could jump with me in her arms, so she threw me over into the side of the dugway next to the hill.
I have never learned if she then jumped because the wagon veered into the side of the dugway. In any event, Dad came down with the four horses to hook up with the loaded wagon for the trip up and back to our home. Later I grew to love to swim in Bear River, but that was not the time.
John Deere Tractor Wreck
One day I drove it up the hill on the road to Weston to pick up our mail at the intersection beyond the canal flume. Then I drove it up the road to our neighbor's, Wash Thompson. I can't recall why I went there, but after a few minutes I decided to lead for home.
From their barn there was a long straight driveway to the Weston road, where you had to turn right or left onto the road. I put the tractor in high gear, probably to show off to the Thompsons. As I approached the road, the tractor was probably going 20 miles per hour. I didn't think to slow down, partly due to the fact that the mail, which was on the seat under my right thigh, was jostling loose. I reached down to secure the mail just as the tractor was entering the roadway. Since I needed to go left toward home, I quickly pulled the steering wheel left and more quickly let it go to reach back across to grab it on the right side and pull it across left again to make the turn. But as those will know who have driven tractors, they are engineered to very quickly return to front wheels to straight ahead. So I was rapidly heading for the barrow pit on the opposite of the road.
Then a flash came to my mind that I could touch the wheel brake on the left to slow the left rear wheel, thus swinging the tractor to the left. By the time my foot hit the brake the tractor was almost to the barrow pit. The only problem was that in my quick reaction, I hit the right wheel brake, not the left one.
The next thing I knew I was on my back in the barrow pit with the tractor upside down on top of me. Actually the tractor seat was across my groin, pinning me to the ground. The tractor was still running and the huge rear wheels were turning. The left wheel was on top of my right leg pulling it under the wheel.
The engine finally killed, about the time that the Thompsons came running up to see if they could help. After extracting me from the tractor, they pulled the tractor upright. The tall exhaust pipe was bent upright, and the engine started. So I drove off home with much dread over ruining the appearance of Dad's new cherished John Deere Tractor.
I don't recall what Dad said when I got home, but it seems that he was very kind to me and didn't punish me for my foolishness in ruining his prized tractor.
I have pondered many times this impossible survival of what should have been severe injury or death. The incredible speed of the tractor flipping over so fast that I was not aware of it, and slamming into the barrow pit, so that I was not bruised except for where the seat arm had pinned me to the ground is astounding to me. I can onlly assume that angels protected me.
Sunday, January 3, 2010
The sweet sounds of music
It was important to Dad and Mom that their children be exposed to the cultural arts. Being a closet artist, Mom sought to grace the walls of our home with beautiful artwork, and keep a supply of art materials in stock for our creative outlet. Mom and Dad’s mutual appreciation for good music resulted in a state of the art stereo system, and a significant collection of musical recordings that ranged from the Mormon Tabernacle Choir and classical music to Big Band from the 1950’s and Broadway musical scores to the best of the Three D’s. Dad listened to Mozart, Wagner and Copeland while he read the paper. Mom listened to Vivaldi and Tchaichovsky while she did her housework, and to Christmas music when she was homesick. The girls danced many a private ballet recital to The Nutcracker Suite and The Waltz of the Flowers, and knew every word to every song from The Sound of Music. Although the boys professed to be less inspired by classical music I remember playacting with them to Peter and the Wolf (David especially liked to be Peter, while Brad was the wolf) and witnessing a spectacular three man sword fight to Edvard Grieg’s In the Hall of the Mountain King. All of our listening to good music, whether intentional or incidental, prepared us for the chance to attend professional musical events with our parents. Dad and Mom would invite, and sometimes cajole, us to be their guest several times a year at some of the many amazing cultural offering in the Cleveland area, including ballet, opera, Cleveland Orchestra concerts and plays. I remember attending the opera Aida and, although I didn’t understand a word that was sung, being strongly affected by the emotion of the performance. I’m sure that Doug’s interest in the guitar inspired our attendance at the classical guitar recital at the outdoor Blossom Music Center. Blossom was also the venue for a fantastic Man of La Mancha performance and several Cleveland Orchestra concerts. When the Broadway cast of The Wiz came to town I think the whole family attended that performance, and came home singing “Ease on down, ease on down the road. Don’t you carry nothin’ that will be a load. Come on and ease on down, ease on down the road”.
Geographically speaking
For many years we had subscriptions to the National Geographic magazine, whose pictures alone took us to far away places that we had to find on the globe. Often when we found an unfamiliar country name on the globe we would turn to the encyclopedia to learn more about it. Brad was particularly fascinated with far-off places and the trivia associated with them. Because he was the champion of all things geographic, he initiated the on-going globe competition designed to stump his siblings. The idea was to challenge someone to find a country on the globe, which was rather detailed with tiny print. Brad prided himself in finding the tiniest and most remote places to challenge his opponent. The rest of us tried to turn the tables on him by giving him exotic places to locate, but he always seemed to rise to the occasion. I remember once that Brad challenged someone—I think it was David—to find a country that none of us had ever heard of before. We looked for hours it seemed then cheated by consulting the encyclopedia, just to discover that it wasn’t listed even there. When confronted with this fact Brad was pleased to tell us that the African country had just recently experienced a coup, and that its named had been changed, but since the borders had not been altered the country was technically there on the globe, so he had won the competition.
Bedtime stories
I don’t know if Mom knew it instinctively, or if Granny Keeler had modeled it for her, but she seemed to follow Emilie Buchwald’s observance, that "children are made readers on the laps of their parents." I don’t recall when I began to learn to read, but I know that it was before my first grade teacher began reading groups. It seemed to be as natural as breathing to me, which I attribute largely to the considerable time I was exposed to reading and oral language from birth on. Mom was in her element when she put on her reading glasses, propped a pillow behind her back in the middle of her big bed, and let the pages fall open on the bookmarked page of the book du jour—be it The Tin Woodman of Oz, A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court, or Little Women. She’d flip back a page or two and recount the prior night’s adventure, then launch into the next chapter. Her penchant for drama would kick in, and soon she would transport her listeners to the Emerald City or the five little Pepper’s home or Aladdin’s cave. The natural vocal nuances in her oral reading drew in her audience so that, even when we were old enough to be well able to read ourselves to sleep, we would often sit just outside her bedroom door and listen with one ear while we worked on our homework. The fact that we all still enjoy reading and a good storyteller is likely a direct result of Mom’s efforts.
"You may have tangible wealth untold.
Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
Richer than I you can never be –
I had a mother who read to me."
— Strickland Gillilan
Dad also contributed to our love of words. Although we weren’t blessed to have him as our nightly storyteller on a regular basis, we occasionally enjoyed his reading as well. I remember him reading excerpts from Peck’s Bad Boy, Maori Tales and poems from the two fat Poems from Home volumes. My favorites were “The Raggedy Man, The Midnight Ride of Paul Revere, Edgar Allan Poe’s The Raven, and the eerie Highwayman:
“ The road was a ribbon of moonlight over the purple moor,
And the highwayman came riding--
Riding--riding--
The highwayman came riding, up to the old inn-door.”
Establish a house of learning
Although they grew up in different circumstances Dad and Mom both came from homes where learning and thinking were important. They took both their formal and informal education seriously, which spilled over into their marriage and child-rearing. Early in their marriage they joined a book club through which they began collecting the extensive family library that we remember growing up. Making the accumulation of books a priority, rather than any one of a number of other possible collections that married folks embark upon, says much about what was important to them and what they had in common from the start. Somehow in their ever-busy lives Mom and Dad found time to read, often very early in the morning or very late at night. On a number of occasions I found one or both of them asleep with a book in their hands, presumably after they had tried to sneak in some personal study or relaxation time between their parental responsibilities. Their mutual love of learning has been evident throughout their life together, and has had a profound impact on their progeny. They have sought to follow the counsel to “Seek ye out of the best books words of wisdom; seek learning, even by study and also by faith…Establish a house of learning” (D&C 88:118-119).
There was never a problem finding something good to read at the Thompson house. In each of the homes our family lived in, from Hamer Drive until the present, I have clear memories of bookshelves lined with books, and a variety of reading opportunities. One of my most distinct memories has to be of the study in the tudor home in Cleveland, which I always called the library. I loved to curl up on the window seat and read a book or listen to the stereo. The built-in bookshelves lining three walls of the room were brimming with hundreds of volumes Dad and Mom had collected, including the classics by authors such as Alfred Lord Tennyson, Charles Dickens, Jane Austen and Mark Twain. There were numerous church reference books, books on history, politics and philosophy, and a set of The World Book Encyclopedias. I remember perusing the titles on the book bindings wondering about books titled Jesus Was Married, The Last of the Mohicans, and The Naked Capitalist. Some of my childhood favorites from the “grown up” shelves included the beautiful origami coffee table book, the etchings in Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland, the Especially for Mormons series, and many of the nature and travel books produced by National Geographic. I spent hours reading the Childcraft set (the children’s companion to the encyclopedia), especially the volume titled “Things to Make and Do”. The wide variety of books exposed us to numerous wonders of the world, so we each had the opportunity to choose topics of interest to explore that appealed to us personally.
Of course we had a library of children’s books as well, some housed in the big bookshelf in the upstairs hallway, and some personal favorites that we kept in our bedrooms. There were several large volumes of storybook collections (like A Treasury of Children’s Literature), board books for the toddlers, Little Golden books (I remember The Poky Little Puppy), Disney classics, all kinds of chapter books, science and history-focused books, scripture story books, and paperbacks that Mom let us purchase through Scholastic book orders (The Borrowers series was one of my favorites). If I had an hour of undirected time Mom knew she would often find me curled up with a book in the library or in my bedroom. This was heaven for me because, like Jorge Luis Borges, "I have always imagined that paradise will be a kind of library."
Saturday, January 2, 2010
A Brother I Could Always Look Up To
Barry is 16 years older than I am, so I really didn't know him until I was grown. And since he skipped TWO grades, he was away at college before I could even talk. But I do recall a few things about him from childhood: He was a "muscle man" who had a bar in the doorway for chin-ups and a really strange device made of metal coiled springs with handles on each end to expand his chest and biceps. And he was a "cool cat" who brought home 78 rpm records of Glenn Miller, Spike Jones, et al. PLUS...when he was at Columbia University, one of his neighbors was Harry Belafonte! He brought me silk pajamas with my picture painted on them from Korea, which I still have in my cedar chest, and I loved to hear of his travels when he became an international banker. His physical strength is legendary, and Ted and I were in awe as he scaled the giant trees on a waving ladder in their backyard, chopping them down foot by foot, while in his 70s. And when he and Ellen visited us this past summer and she was tentative about crossing our little creek, he just picked her up and threw her across with ease! Most of all, I've admired his spiritual strength and ethics. My brothers and I have all benefited from the examples of our parents, and Barry has stood tall in his faith and values. He is a great man who is having a great life, and I look forward to more stories of his prowess in the years ahead. Happy Birthday, dear brother, with much love, Margaret Ann
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Life Size Playhouse
Love,
Kathleen
The Best Thing a Father Can Do
#1 He often told us that he did, and would tell us why.
#2 When dad came home from work in the evenings, he would frequently enter the kitchen and scoop mom up in his arms and whisk her around the room and lay a big kiss on her. Mom would pretend to protest saying, "Oh, Barry!!!!"
#3 When mom and I would have disagreements about what I could do, I would complain to my dad. He always showed understanding for my point of view, but never belittled my mother's position. He had total respect for her. I remembered one time dad saying something like, "Now I know your mother is a little straight laced, but she has only your best interest in mind..." He then arbitrated a solution that was acceptable to both of us.
These examples of Dad's love for mom provided a great sense of security for me as I grew up.
KATHLEEN
A Tight Squeeze
As number seven of eight, and one of ten, my place in the car was on a lap or in the gunner seat of the station wagon. On long drives Martha and I were always facing backwards. We would make up games to play with the cars we were facing. Sometimes we would write notes to the drivers behind us, telling them to honk or smile. We were thrilled when they would comply.
A few times we would have an extra guest who came along with us on a drive. I recall one evening piled in the red Toyota along with Sister Ashley. Not one of us, except perhaps Dad, who was driving, had any wiggle room. I was so hot and cramped that by the time we got home I had a nosebleed that took what seemed like hours to stop.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Fashion--Barry Thompson Style
So much of my life, Dad was not only working all week at the bank, but then serving in church callings and teaching at BYU, all of which required him to wear a suit. It may have been the addition of new hiking boots with bright red laces that made the jeans and plaid shirts he wore when he was home on Saturdays stand out. Perhaps he hoped to make a quick trip up one of his favorite mountain peaks or repel off one of the poplars in the back yard or even the roof.
FHE, Family Prayer, and Scripture Study

Related to this, I recall when I was eight years old we were challenged to read the Book of Mormon. I don’t recall for sure, but I believe it was a challenge issued to our ward, or at least amongst a few families. I know our family took the challenge to heart and we all to some degree or other began reading it. I got particularly excited and spent much of my free time reading the Book of Mormon. Most days I’d read many pages, it became a competition for me to try to be the first one to finish reading it. I recall the pride I felt as I finished reading the book and did so for me in what seemed like record time. I’m sure Mom & Dad stoked my fire by encouraging me in this effort.
The Johnson Farm

Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Dream Big
Monday, December 28, 2009
A voice from the past.
I received the 80th invite. Sorry we'll be in Baja then, celebrating a
neighbor's 85th down there on 12/31. Barry was my first boss when I got
out of highschool in 1962, I was 17 and he 33 when I became his
secretary. It was a great 6 years and his VERY STRONG work ethic taught
me to work at maximum capacity daily! But I loved the challenge.
Diane Winkler McCament
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Swimming Pool in Tulsa, Backyard Campouts, and Nighttime Dips
Dad, as Scoutmaster, Inspires us to Great Heights
The Best Souveniers
A Haunted House to Remember
-Margaret
Dating Competition
Ralph Bozwell, a friend of mine from Provo, had become Barry’s roommate in Manhattan. We had double dated. Barry had asked Ralph if I was just a friend, or more, and would he mind if he dated me. Ralph was my good friend and had no objection. BT invited me to see a tennis match, to watch the Red Sox play the Yankees, to the Opera, to see the Rockettes at Rockefeller Center. And though he would occupy my weekends, I had other boyfriends whose company I enjoyed. He seemed a little annoyed when I wasn’t available. When he saw me at the art museum one Sunday, he chided me, "Do you do such things on the Sabbath?" (What was he doing there?)
Jack Laney had taken me to see My Fair Lady on Broadway a month or so earlier, and we were quite friendly. Barry seemed peeved. I thought,“Does he want to occupy all of my time?”
I was called to the Sunday School Board and traveled some to the wards as a teacher trainer. Brother Bennet of the Stake Sunday School Board wanted to introduce me to his brother, Bob, at the summer picnic. I was interested. Who should show up, but Barry Thompson. Of all the nerve!
In July, Janey Thompson prepared a program during which Barry and I were in a group of Square Dancers. He was good at it and so strong, as the boys lifted us off the ground during one part. He led me to believe he liked it. Actually he thought it was too hot for such things. I was disappointed. I loved Square dancing.
I became ill and visited a doctor. After an examination, he asked,“Are you in love?” “I don’t know” I replied. He suggested I take a little vacation and think it over. My grandfather had just passed away, so in October I returned home for a few days. I needed to clear my head.
-Ellen
Friday, December 25, 2009
The 4th of July Parade
but my earliest memories of the 4th of July were participating in the neighborhood parade. It started in Placentia, California on Hamer Drive. All the neighbors met at our house.
They could come and decorate their tricycles, bicycles, wagons, etc. We would use crepe paper and flags, etc. We also made hats out of paper plates and
newspaper. Mom would often have special red, white, and blue clothing for us to wear. Then we would march around the block.
When we moved to Ohio, the tradition continued for a few years. Our first 4th of July in Ohio was in 1969 where the parade started at our house on Corydon Road.
I believe the parade continued until 1972. That spring we moved to Fairfax Road and invited out old neighbors to join us. My recollection is that was our last year of the parade. 
After moving to Fairfax Road, we began an early morning flag raising ceremony. The bird house was removed from its pole and a flag was raised while dad played his trumpet. Then we would have a delicious breakfast. These are some of my favorite childhood memories.Kathleen
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Christmas memories #4: Christmas Eve
Christmas Eve took forever to come for us kids, though I’m sure that it came quicker than desirable for Dad and Mom. After dinner we prepared for the Nativity. Although they adjusted over the years, the roles were reasonably fixed for quite awhile. We all knew that Kathleen would be Mary, Brad would be Joseph, and the cleanest doll in the house would be the baby. In later years Margaret and Martha took the part of Mary, and Jon and David tried their hand at Joseph. The littlest kids were usually the shepherds, wearing robes and towels on their heads. At least one year they tried to get Herman the cat to be their sheep. Doug was a dramatic and brooding Herod. I was the angel—probably because I had the speaking part memorized: “Fear not, for behold I bring you good tidings of great joy…”. Dad was the narrator, but it seems that he doubled as a wiseman. Mom was the director and costume coordinator. She was probably the only one who actually “watched” the pageant, as everyone else was in it, but that only seems fair when she did most of the preparation for the play, as well as the rest of Christmas. It was her small compensation for a daunting task.
After the play we gathered around the Christmas tree, for “as the wisemen brought gifts to the baby Jesus, and Heavenly Father gave us his Son, so we give gifts to each other”. Mom and Dad usually specified the one gift we could open on Christmas Eve—often new pj’s. Although I was young, I remember showing off my new nightgown on one Christmas Eve in California, only to be surprised that everyone else’s pj’s matched my red and white candy-striped nightie. Taking our first gift of Christmas with us, we lined up according to age and marched upstairs singing “Holly Bows Are Arching”
What happened after we went to bed remains a mystery to this day, for although I have been the parent doing the last-minute Christmas Eve prep, mine has been for a family of five, not ten. I don’t know how it was done in one night, and then how Dad and Mom managed to wake up and function the next morning.
Christmas memories: Christmas morning
There was a family rule that no one could go downstairs without the rest of the family, and that we couldn’t wake Dad and Mom til 8:00 or maybe it was 8:30. Brad and David volunteered every year to relieve our anticipation by running down about 7:30 to check that Santa had actually come. I have no hard evidence, but I am pretty sure that several years they made an early run at 6:00 or so, but made it back up before the rest of us knew. When we finally convinced our bleary-eyed parents to roll out of bed, we again lined up to sing “Holly Bows”, and to march downstairs. I don’t think that any of us kids ever knew the real lyrics in their entirety, but mom did so we sang back-up. We marched into the living room to view Santa’s generosity. I can’t speak for the whole gang, but I never remember being disappointed at his gifts. The presents were lined up in order of age so no one would get mixed up about whose were whose. After we had admired each other’s goodies, we sat down for a breakfast that would fuel us for the fun ahead. It didn’t do us any good to say we weren’t hungry. Breakfast was a must.
When we finally assembled around the Christmas tree our anticipation was at a fevered pitch. The first gift was handed to the youngest (lucky Martha), and the great unveiling began. Presents were opened one at a time, and in order—youngest to oldest, round and round—until every one of the hundred or so gifts were unwrapped. It was unreal. It was a thrill to open your gifts, but nothing matched the butterflies as family members opened the gift you had chosen for them. Would they like it? Would they feel the “righteness” that you felt about it when you bought it? I remember the year when I got a package of brads for dad at the hardware store. I hadn’t seen any nails of that size on Dad’s workbench. I worried that he wouldn’t know what they were, or that he wouldn’t understand how much he needed them. No need to fear. He looked so delighted when he opened the package, and even got how funny it was that the tacks were named after his second son. He deserved an Emmy for that performance. The wrapping paper melee continued, it seemed, for hours. The shed wrapping paper filled several large leaf and lawn bags.
When the paper and ribbons were cleaned up, the reveling began. Everyone chose a new favorite toy or game and put all their energies into breaking it in. I remember Kathleen trying out her first blow dryer—very cool. I can see the spot, straddling the doorway between the dining room and front hall, that Brad and David played the premiere game of Stratego. Martha was on fire the year that Santa left her “Loud-mouthed Singers” in China and brought her the pink rag doll instead. She ran around the house, entranced with the responsibilities of her new charge.
Christmas memories #3: playing Santa
One family night each December we loaded the family in our station wagon, along with several boxes full of oranges, apples, home baked goodies and other unknown wrapped items. We drove in the dark, singing Christmas carols, and stopping in strange neighborhoods at strange homes. Dad, Doug or Brad would sneak up to the house, place the box on the porch, ring the doorbell and dash back to the car parked down the street. It was the best kind of doorbell-ditching. Dad and Mom never told us who it was that was in need of some Christmas cheer, but a few times I remember seeing the silhouettes of those who came to the door, and could tell by their body language how excited and surprised they were. It always gave me a warm and grateful feeling to be able to help someone who I assumed was in need. These experiences became much more meaningful the year that our family was struggling financially. It was early December and we had not bought a Christmas tree yet. It didn’t seem like Christmas, and I think that all of us kids were feeling a little bit of concern. One night the doorbell rang. I think that Brad opened the door, but I was right behind him, and we were both amazed at what we found on the porch. My recall may not be precise, but I remember a Christmas tree and two or three boxes full of goodies and other items. What was in the boxes was really unimportant. I just remember feeling overjoyed that someone cared about us, because that meant that the Lord was aware of the worries of some of his children, and wanted to answer our prayers. In that moment I remembered the silhouettes at the homes we had visited other years, and then I understood that although it may be better to give than to receive, sometimes it was good to receive gifts of love with no ability to give back. That was a moment of pure joy.
Christmas memories #2:music, caroling & open house
Music was a big part of our holiday. The day after Thanksgiving, and occasionally before that, the Christmas albums moved to the spot adjacent to the stereo, and it seemed that they played most of the day. The Mormon Tabernacle Choir and Julie Andrews were our favorites. Now and then during other times of the year Mom would put on a Christmas album, and that’s when we knew she was homesick. Since all of us took piano lessons at some time growing up, every year there were a couple of us learning carols for our lessons, so there was disconnected background music each December afternoon that sounded vaguely like familiar Christmas tunes.
Christmas was about making other people happy. I remember the family going to a nursing home to sing carols. We weren’t real thrilled about singing to strangers, but mom insisted we go. The home looked and smelled strange inside. The senior citizens looked blankly at us, wondering why our horde had invaded, I suppose. But when we started singing, their faces brightened. Some smiled, some clapped their hands, and some tried to join us in raspy voices. After our performance we passed out oranges to the residents. Some of them grabbed for us and wanted hugs. I felt a little awkward, but couldn’t say no. I remember thinking that they really weren’t hugging me. They were hugging the people in their lives that should have been there for them, but weren’t. I was just the stand-in for their moment of pleasure, and that felt good.
Several years we hosted a Christmas open house at our place, inviting ward members, neighbors and the missionaries. It was chaos, but it was fun. Mom baked like crazy the week before to provide the refreshments. She made banana bread, light and dark fruitcake, and her heavenly lemon nut bread. I remember squeezing the citrus for the hot spice punch (the juice of seven lemons and seven oranges in each recipe). It had to have been a load of extra work for dad and mom, but everyone enjoyed the party. There seemed to be wall-to-wall people of all ages. I recall that one year Frances Whiting commandeered the grand piano and sang like an opera diva. Someone--probably Dad---hung mistletoe from the hallway light, and there was some strategic maneuvering by certain guests to avoid or congregate underneath it.
Christmas memories
Margaret's post about Christmas sparked a bunch of memories for me. I'll post them in digestible doses, and hope that everyone will correct or fill in the details I may have forgotten. Christmas was not just a holiday at our house. It was a season, a lifestyle, a state of mind. Although there were preparations and a lot of talk before, it officially began on December 1st--Kathleen’s birthday. She always pulled the first figure out of the number one pocket on the felt advent calendar and placed it on the tree. We took turns, by age, decorating the advent
calendar day by day during December. On the first, Kathleen also lit the wick on the first day of the Spirit of Christmas candle. It was lit at meal time and stayed burning throughout the meal unless we were less than civil to each other. We helped lick the stamps on the out-going Christmas cards Dad and Mom addressed, and hang the in-coming cards on the cord across the dining room.
It seemed that we had a tall Christmas tree every year, though that tradition may have actually started in the high-ceilinged rooms of the Fairfax house. I remember Dad putting the lights on first, which seemed to take forever while we waited to get started with the other decorations. The huge pinecones (from California, I think) went on next, and then the ornaments. Mom was so careful with the ornaments, and I felt like she was holding her breath while she let us kids help put them on. Hanging the icicles was the most fun of all, though the messiest. Everyone had their own style—some separated one icicle from the bunch and placed it carefully in it’s perfect pre-destined spot. Others impulsively tossed handfuls, watching them fall willy-nilly wherever they might, often in tangled clumps. Then the dining room lights would be turned out and we would be amazed at the artistry of our slipshod handiwork. Somehow, the next morning, the tree would be evenly covered with silver shininess and well-spaced ornaments, as if some fairy had rearranged the mess after we had gone to bed.
I loved the star that Dad made out of plywood and lined with outdoor lights. It hung on the garage at the green house in Cleveland, then over the front door at the Fairfax house. There were years that we put up other lights outside, but the star was always my favorite. It seemed to say, “There’s always room at this inn”.
The First "Not Really A Date"
-Ellen
Saturday, December 12, 2009
Days of December
For weeks I would consider what gift I could give to each family member for Christmas. I never had much money, so it was necessary to be creative. Sometimes I decorated IOUs or made some other homemade gifts that I, perhaps, had made in school. At least once, Kathleen took me to Twigbees, a special branch of the department store Higbees which was around at Christmas time. It was stocked with gifts children could afford.
It was great fun to plan to fill the stocking of the family member whose name I had drawn. I loved keeping it a secret, while at the same time trying to figure out who everyone else had.
-Margaret
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Crawfish Etouffee Anyone?
The Boys Beer Can Collection: Who says Mom and Dad Were Always Strict?
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Juvenile Delinquents
One such training moment was the time when David and I (Jonathan) were entering/approaching our teenage years. We decided to take the idea of throwing crab apples of the roof of the house at cars to the next level. We gathered up a large paper bag of crab apples and late one weekend night we trekked the few block to Fairfax Elementary School (the newer school with one story and pitched roofs). It must have been close to 11pm when we arrived. We scaled the roof and proceeded to heave crab apples at the cars passing by on Lee Road. Somehow the police got word of our mischief, because just before we called it a night, a towering, intimidating beast of a police officer pointed his huge beaming flashlight up at us from the ground below and said in the deepest bass voice “Hey you boys come down from there right now!” Dave and I looked at each other and quickly debated whether we should make a run for it, but decided against it. We climbed down and were whisked off to the police station. I trembled at the threatenings spewed by the police officer of putting us into a juvenile delinquent center, and being “eaten alive” by the bad-to-the-bone inner city boys who were there. I equally dreaded the anger and utter disappointment I anticipated receiving from Mom when she came to reclaim us from the station. The only thing in which I took solace was knowing that Dad was out of town and so we’d be spared the harshest punishment until his return. The ride home from the police station felt much further than it was.
Doug's California Memories
All of my other California memories take place while we were living on Hamer Drive in Placentia. I remember Kindergarten and first through fourth grades at Wagner Elementary School, and many teachers and fellow students, including Mrs. Mead, who I liked. I know I did well in the spelling bees. I vaguely recall hearing that JFK had been shot. I think I was in Kindergarten – we got to go home from school that day. I remember playing the “passing out game” in the schoolyard, probably in Fourth Grade. I remember thinking that it was VERY naughty and fun to tell a kid to say to a teacher or a girl “mother may I, and then spell CUP”.
I remember our ward in Fullerton, the old building with the courtyard, and chokecherry trees in the back. I remember being baptized by Dad at that building, along with other kids the same day. Before that I remember being shocked at how naughty a girl was who had just been baptized – I thought she should behave better. Then there was the newer chapel we moved to – but we must not have been there very long as I don’t have that many memories there. Some of the kids from our Ward were Bonnie Harper, Mario Herbst, and Doug Chase (and the Wysons – next paragraph). I occasionally visited Doug and his family over night. I liked Doug, but not the “horse pills” they made me take with breakfast.
I remember our good friends, the Wyson’s, who had a kid to match each of ours, and one or two to spare. Joey and Danny were around my age, Elizabeth was older, Tuffy was Kathleen’s friend, and Matty played with Brad. I remember spending all of my $5 in birthday money on a vast collection of candy and eating and sharing it all at the Wyson’s. We occasionally watched the Disneyland fireworks from the roof of the Wyson’s house – maybe on the 4th of July. I also remember singing at the Wysons, with Daddy Joe playing guitar. I remember him singing “Christmastime is coming and the goose is getting fat, please to put a penny in the old man’s hat, if you haven’t got a penny then a ha’penny will do, if you haven’t got a ha’penny then God Bless You!”
I remember the kids from our neighborhood: Kenny Wilson, Paul and Laura Bellizzi, Vincent Towels, Danny Petry, Bonnie Balducci, and others whose names I can’t remember now. Each of them has at least one story…
I remember the Fourth of July parades around our neighborhood, organized by Mom. I got to shoot off real firecrackers in the front yard, before those were forbidden to little kids (and now all kids), and numbed my fingers with one that I held too long – I was probably 7 or 8 years old.
I remember climbing onto the low roof of our home and finding many leftover nails between the wooden shingles, which I took down to use to build things. Over the years there were fewer and fewer nails left. Later I remember breaking my toes jumping off the roof, while trying to show off, which I remember as the worst pain I’ve ever felt. I had to miss baseball season. I think it was the year before that I pitched a no-hitter – then I couldn’t play the year I was hurt as I had a knee-length cast. Then we moved to Cleveland and Little League wasn’t the same.
I was registered for swimming lessons and the Swim Team – I didn’t like the water in my nose, burning eyes, cold water, tiredness, etc., so I think I only did that one year. Baseball was my favorite sport as a kid; it wasn’t ‘til later in Cleveland that I graduated to basketball. However, I didn’t like practicing baseball in the back yard with Dad, because he made me be the Catcher, and I thought he threw too hard. I don’t think it was ‘til later that we realized I needed glasses and couldn’t see the ball very well.
I remember wrestling other kids who were brought around by the neighbors. I was small, but I learned how to get a kid in a full nelson and hold on ‘til they gave up. One day I was playing with some little kids up the street and Danny Petry, who later pitched for the Detroit Tigers, came by with some older kids and they teased us. I wound up wrestling Danny and losing one of my new shoes when I had to run away after I had to let him out of my Full Nelson. We didn’t find the shoe ‘til it after had rained and the shoe was ruined.
I remember inventing things alone and with Kenny Wilson, like the electric hot dog cooker (with which I shorted out a fuse), and a boxy wooden airplane we hauled onto the roof to launch. We dug an underground “room” on the side of the house that could barely hide me when I ducked down, and which eventually filled with water when it rained. I was trying to create an underground lair like the super heroes had. I also liked to make explosions and chemical reactions with my chemical set. Grandma and Margaret Thompson visited a couple of times. Grandma was my pal – she’d write me a note to get saltpeter and sulphur from the hobby store so that I could make my own gunpowder. I remember that store as it was my favorite. They also had Hot Wheels and Big Daddy Ed Roth’s "RAT FINK" pictures and stickers.
I remember that our back yard, and our whole neighborhood had lots of lizards! The back neighbors collected them and we all tried to catch them. Once a big Alligator Lizard got into the house and caused some excitement, losing its tail in the process. Our back yard garden was built up a few inches from the rest of the yard, and I remember Dad working in the garden. I remember Ginny walking out onto the hot driveway in front of our house and burning her bare feet badly – she couldn’t figure out how to get off the driveway for some reason and just stood there and cried – she was just a toddler.
I remember playing Monstro the Whale with Kathleen in her crib. I threw everything in the room into the crib, like Pinnocchio’s boat, and yelled “Monstro’s coming!”. Then when Kathleen started to cry I would tell her I’d save her. One Christmas I remember hiding behind the love seat in the front room waiting for Santa Claus and falling asleep. I remember doing errands for Mom, which she made into quests – I enjoyed trying to please her.
Slurpees from 7-11 were new and very exotic, and I also liked candy cigarettes. But there were several months when I didn’t want to go to the 7-11. That was right after I tried to steal a flashlight there (my first attempt) and got caught. The manager made we wait on a stool while he called Mom to come and get me. I was horribly embarrassed and never tried to steal anything again. Around that same time I recall hearing “Satisfaction” by the Rolling Stones on our car radio – my first rock and roll song.
I remember the Ramona (Indian) Pageant, our first snow (on the way to Big Bear, as I recall), the art show along the pier at Newport Beach, and going to the Hollywood Bowl, which seemed enormous. That may not be the way it really happened, but that’s what I remember!
Travels with Dad: Camping
We knew that Dad was in his venturesome best when he donned his hiking boots, and clip-on sunglasses, and started sporting three days’ worth of whiskers. What could be more fun than accompanying an overgrown boy scout on a two-week camping trip? I’m sure that Mom had a few misgivings, but she was a good sport as she found ways to make our roughing it a little more civilized. Dad reciprocated by interspersing our nights at a KOA with one or two at the Holiday Inn to keep us kids sanitary and Mom sane. We thought we were pretty hip with our matching boy and girl tents, sleeping bags, lanterns, flashlights, cooler, and gas stove all courtesy of Coleman. Every meal tasted gourmet when it was cooked over a fire and served on paper plates. Sharing a bed with your brother or sister wasn’t so annoying when it was under the stars (or the tent flap). Dirt was no longer the irritant that it was at home, but rather a badge of honor representing a day well spent. One camping experience that I have vivid memories of is our trip to the Smoky Mountains. We must have stayed more than one night at a particular campsite there because I can picture our setup so well. I remember us hiking nearby trails flanked by lush green plant life that smelled sweet and earthy. Brad caught a newt--a creature previously unknown to me--and adopted it as a temporary pet. I recall looking across the campfire at Dad, who was telling a story using his hands and an expressive face to add a little drama to the tale.
I remember us attending the moving “Trail of Tears” pageant portraying the tragic story of the regions native Americans, followed by a somewhat precarious drive up a dark canyon as the sun went down in the Smoky Mountains, full of hairpin turns on a two-lane highway. Although it was dark around us, the sun-setting sky above us was the most intense magenta color I have ever seen, as if painted in watercolors. I remember a sense of security that although the road was treacherous, Dad was at the wheel so all was well.
Travels with Dad:The Cooperstown summer
Travels with Dad: Palmyra
For Father's day 2008 I wrote a fairly long piece for Dad about memories I have of our vacation trips with him as the ultimate boy scout. I will post several of those memories, hoping that others will add their versions of the same events, and flesh out the sketchy parts.
I’m sure that we would have been interested in visiting church history sites no matter where we had grown up, but living so close to Kirtland, and having our trips out west somewhat mirror the pioneers’ trek to Utah probably influenced those visits. All of these locations have been enhanced and refurbished by the church since the time when we first visited them, but the simplicity of the sites did not diminish their significance or impact for us. Even without a replicated Smith family farmhouse or visitor’s center, the Sacred Grove was sacred. It was not hard to imagine that the peaceful and pristine woods, with little more than a footpath to distinguish it from any other forest in the area, was much like it had been when Joseph Smith went there in the spring of 1820. Traveling from there to the Hill Cumorah put Joseph’s trips there in perspective. When I have read since then about the times that Joseph had to move the gold plates for their protection, and how he narrowly escaped capture along the roads of Palmyra, I can picture what it looked like from my recollections of our time there. My memories of the pageant begin with the opportunity we had to see and meet Elder Mark E. Peterson. I remember Dad pointing him out to us as he walked down the aisle between the folding chairs. He seemed so tall and distinguished, but yet approachable. It was my first close up look at an apostle, and I was duly impressed. At my age the pageant seemed epic and awe-inspiring, in its size, complexity and spirit. The climax, of course, was the coming of the Savior and his blessing of the children. Being in the audience almost made me one of them. I remember wondering afterwards who in the audience wasn’t a member of the church, because I couldn’t imagine anyone not knowing it was true after experiencing the spirit and emotion of the event.
Saturday, November 28, 2009
The Big Elm Tree
Dad was in the front position, followed by Brad, Me (David), and Jon, like four guys lined up for a tug-o-war. (I imagine that Doug must have been on his mission at the time) Dad exhorted us to “hold on tight.” We waited grimy, leaning against the rope, muscles straining against the anticipation of the weight of the huge limb, as Mark began cutting that limb, right above our heads.
All of a sudden, there was a loud CRACK; the limb, that seemed to fill the sky, shuddered, and then began its downward plunge. Upon seeing this green monstrosity, many times our size, hurtling directly upon us, instinct overcame fatherly mandate; Jon and I dove for the nearby bushes, to save our skulls.
Looking back, we saw Dad and Brad half-jerked off the ground by the limb’s weight. Jon and I stared dumbfounded, until Dad glanced back and seeing us, barked, “get over here!” We rushed over and sheepishly helped lower the monster to the ground. “Hmm”, I thought, “I guess Dad knew what he was talking about.”